When you think you can't ...

Many of us have an idea, or a fairly good notion of what we can: do, be, have, receive, explore, handle, understand, love, etc. And what we can't do, be, have, receive, learn, let go of, trust, etc. We create our reality around these can's and can't. And so we create our limitations based on what we believe for ourselves.

Lately many of my clients have expressed great challenges navigating the current reality they find themselves in: be it personal, relational, or political. Many of us are 'finding' that we don't really like the reality we are living in. It is painful to watch, or experience, or feels hopeless to change. Or we may feel overwhelmed by the scope or size of our discomfort. And many of us are resisting.

We resist the feeling, we resist the thought, we resist the message, we resist the 'other', and therefore we resist the lesson. We are not selective. We simply fall into resistance and we can close off our heart in an effort to protect ourselves and then wonder where is the love and why can't I see it or feel it?

Nothing is separate. We live in a Universe of cause and effects. As it has been said, what we resist, persists. And all the efforting and energy it takes to resist what we see, what we hear, what we feel, what we believe, what we desire, etc. can leave us feeling drained, or overwhelmed, or lost, or betrayed, or ashamed, or terrified, or impotent, or fill in your word here. It takes so much energy to keep this loop running and we can wonder how can things ever change? Some of us look around us and see that it's happening out there and decide that's why I feel this way. Yet the outer world is a reflection of our inner world. In other words, what we resist is creating our reality, our resistance is creating our cant's.

Check in and see, where are you resisting what you are witnessing, thinking, or choosing? Where are you resisting others thoughts or choices, or those of a party, or a practice, or a belief, or a possibility, Are you imposing a sense of rightness or wrongness and resisting anything that doesn't match that?

 If we desire more 'I can's, and fewer 'I can'ts', if we desire change in the world around us, we have to stop resisting within ourselves.  

And what if the exact place of dis-ease within us is where conscious creation begins? From the place of non-resistance, allowing space for all of our feelings, beliefs, and thoughts, without judgement. And by extension allowing everything to be whatever it is to whomever it is? This, I put to you, is where we begin to find greater ease and clarity and where greater possibilty resides. We have connection with the energy of Nature, of Oneness, God, Universe, Source, Essence, Allah, etc. No longer are we spinning our wheels and dumping our energy into what we do NOT wish to experience in a futile pattern of resistance. We can tap into these resources to choose 'I can's' with a conscious potency and be the change we wish to see.

I'm not suggesting that you adopt another's belief, or give up your own. I am suggesting that in order to BE, we must stop resisting and start listening, being curious, and connecting with our feelings and the underlying humanity within ourselves. Look within for where we are making ourselves small, or where we are trying to fit into another's opinion of reality, or resisting what we are aware of, or resisting another, and instead choose what brings us together, both with our greater Self and others. Resistance has no place here.

From this space, as Mary Oliver so eloquently states, 'what would you like to choose with your one wild crazy life'?

So in that vein, I choose to share with you an essay that speaks to me in the times of challenge when I think I can't, and desire ever so deeply to remember that I can. I can be with what I feel, I can be with what is challenging and not give myself away, or hate on myself or others, I can receive a different possiblity, I can be loved, I can surrender, I can let in, I can choose for greater, I can BE the infinite being I came here to be, I can co-create a world in which all I see are part of the One...

From the voice of the amazing author and activist Clarissa Pinkola Estes, "we were made for these times".

Sending deep breaths, yes I CAN, and so much love...

Rachel

Homeplay : Our thoughts are like a computer program running in the backround. Do you know what version is your software? When is the last time you had an upgrade? Does the program match your dreams? If you need a refresher, explore a virtual session with me. Let's create greater together. :-)